How To Avoid Marriage Pitfalls

First of all, before entering marriage, you need to be sure of this decision to avoid pitfalls later on.

You are already sure about your part, what about your better-half-to-be?

The maturity that is expected in you is also the same maturity that is expected of your other half. If maturity is of not the same level then perhaps around the same intensity as you are. It has become obvious that women possess deeper insights about marriage than most men do.

There are certain characteristics you need to avoid in your partner that will surely put your marriage on hold until this is fixed. No matter how you want it to be fixed overnight, it is just not something that you have power over.

It should be done by your partner. So here are some characteristics that you should avoid in the first place to do away with marriage failures.

Possessive: It is normal to display a little possessiveness of your partner as long as this is confined to be kept in check. Otherwise, this is not a good trait because it would become a realm of dominance later on.

You would only feel choked in the end. You would only feel prison instead of staying happy in your marriage. There will be too much jealousy, resentment and anger later on. You would only feel tied down to shore for no good reason.

Dissatisfied: This kind of person will continue to reach something that is undefined and unclear. This person will likely to do job hopping and will lead an unstable life which will lead both your life to nowhere. There will only be unmet expectations later in your life if this will continue to go on.

Bad temper: They are the kind of person who are selfish and have mood swings. They think that they are far superior to others and will impose every belief they have on you and on everyone. They will just do all the taking but they won’t give. They will expect you to be an all-around body.

 There will only be malfunctioning of each role later on. Your life together will only be full of unwanted drama and unconventional situations.

Superiority: They feel like they know about everything and will try to dominate you in whatever you do. They are the ones who have sharp critical minds who don’t care of whatever as long as they feel they are the ones who are right. Surely there will be someone out there who will outlay his sharp mind and he will end up frustrated because of this. In the end there will only be bitterness in the relationship.

Meticulous: They are the kind of persons who will have elaborate and exaggerated habits. This is the type who believes in the idea that everything should be perfect. They will never tolerate anything less than perfect. If something does not go along with what is planned, they usually have a high level of frustration.

Flirtatious: They are the ones who enjoy attention from the opposite sex. They enjoy charming them and would very much like to avoid their own gender. This is often to reconfirm their sense of well being and their ability to catch attention. The relationship with this type of person will only produce continuous failure in the emotional field and intimacy.

However short engagements and courtships normally skip the get-to-know-better phase that is why the dangers of those character traits are often missed. It is rather important that you should spend more time knowing the person than spend time preparing for the weeding because a year wasted in the wrong marriage can never be brought back ever again.

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Are You With Your “True Soulmate”?

In interviewing over a hundred couples for my new book Divine Complement, I was struck by the similarity in the stories of how soulmates met and the divine creative design that drew them together.From those still looking for their soulmate I am often asked, “How will I know he or she is “the One”? Listed here are a dozen characteristics, indicators and clues that he or she is your authentic Divine Complement.

1. You are magnetic opposites . It’s true! Most soulmates are opposites who complement each other’s strengths, traits and talents.

So if your partner seems stubbornly rational when all you want from him or her is listen to your emotional needs or follow your intuitive lead in making a major decision, you are likely complements who need to apply a balanced approach.

The greater function of a soulmate relationship is to mirror each other’s less realized and actualized traits and talents and to blend them together into a productive balanced partnership.

2. Your soulmate is not perfect and has caused you to discard your wish list of ideals. Your true soulmate may not match your qualifications for the perfect mate or match.

Rather he or she is a ‘soul-match’, meaning they will help evolve your soul out of its previous conditioning and urge you to perfect the love you were meant to give freely and unconditionally.

3. A dream may have announced your soulmate’s entrance on the stage of life with a loud trumpet call. Many soulmates dream of each other months or even years before they actually meet.

It seems that they rendezvous in the ethers before the relationship ever lands on earth. A dream lover or a mysterious stranger who enters the dream scene, may have alerted you that your soulmate was nearby.

4. Magic was afoot the day you met and reached a crescendo in the weeks that followed . ” It was kismet” sums up the experience and the world around you took on the air of ‘somewhere over the rainbow’.

Serendipity and synchronistic signs may have alerted you that he or she was “the one.” “A soulmate awakening” as I coin these experiences reveals a dimension of creativity that is full of magic and meaningful signs to authenticate your soulmate’s identity.

5.You were introduced by a member of your family or a friend. A large percentage of soulmates are introduced by a friend or family member who innocently played matchmaker, usually without any idea that they were bringing you together for life. Other souls collaborate with you to make your soulmate dreams come true.

6.You met at someone else’s wedding or in church. Soulmate meetings are meant to tie the knot with a meaningful event or situation that points you to the profound spiritual connection you share and to the divine nature of the relationship.

7. A divine spark lit your heart the moment your eyes met. Most soulmates attest it was love at first sight. Lucille Ball recalled that when she met Desi it wasn’t exactly love at first sight. “It took all of 5 minutes.” The divine connection between twin souls creates a synergy that ignites each other’s hearts with a powerful love energy–it is spiritual chemistry.

8. You ran into each other over and over again before you ever dated. Sometimes the love spark doesn’t catch the first time, and soulmates need several encounters before they connect in a more meaningful way. It may seem like God pushed you together. The soulmate play on the stage of life may have many scenes and acts before the wedding feast.

9. Your partner seemed “oh so familiar” even on the first date. Soulmate relationships are karmic which means you likely spent several lifetimes together. Your soul remembers their soul intimately even if the details of the past lives are never revealed.

10. Your relationship presents challenges that seem like unfair spiritual tests. Your soulmate seems to know what buttons to push to help you let go of the patterns you have outgrown that could sabotage your relationship if they persist.

Fate may present hurdles that test the love that you have promised each other. Soulmates are meant to grow spiritually through tests of their love for each other and these tests are never easy.

11. Your childhood legacy and past relationship experiences contain uncanny parallels. When you sat down to talk about your family history it is likely that you discovered you suffered from some of the same emotional issues growing up or held similar attitudes about one or both of your parents.

Your legacy in some ways mirrors your mate’s so that you can bond emotionally and serve each other with compassion through the psychological healing process.

12. You are on the same page with your vision and aspirations for the future. Generally, soulmates want the same things out of their relationship and of life. Some soulmates have promised to serve the greater good of humanity side-by-side, and will collaborate to contribute something meaningful, such as a book or a humanitarian mission.

Each of you may have arrived with a different piece of the future puzzle and putting them together will give you a clearer picture of your higher purpose together.

About the Author:–  Ariadne Green, MS is a spiritual advisor, dream expert and the author of Ariadne’s Book of Dreams, Warner Books and Divine Complement: The Spiritual Terrain of Soulmate Relationships. Visit the website

 

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